Lunch n Learn (Virtual) - Relational Shift: Pleasing People to Challenging People

Power Skills


Life moves much faster now. The rate at which we must deal with change and uncertainty can seem insane.

It is important for us to Move forward courageously in the midst of uncertainty. Being a leader is all about risking, about getting out of the comfort zone. It’s not only true that when the going gets tough, the tough get going—it’s also true that the ones who risk bravely are the ones who win the biggest prizes. How does a leader do more than just hang on and survive in this kind of an ever-changing, fast moving environment? The key is to learn how to continually make “leadershifts.”

This talk is about the Relational Shift from Pleasing People to Challenging People. As a Project Manager, if you would like to lead your team, you need to do away with the need to be liked by them: leadership, by definition, means challenging others to go beyond their comfort zone, and people don’t like to be uncomfortable. Every advance you make as a leader will require a Leadershift that changes the way you think, act, and lead.


Learning Objectives 

  • Recognize the steps to take when shifting from a Pleaser to a Challenger.
  • Understand The 25-50-25 Principle while having a Difficult Conversation.
  • Strategies to balance care and candor using the Road Map for Challenging People.

Key Takeaways

  • Learn how being a “people pleaser” could put your leadership in jeopardy.
  • Find out what is the biggest hurdle you need to overcome in moving from Pleasing people to Challenging people.

Speaker Bio


Anupama Kinatukara

Anupama Kinatukara lives in New Jersey and is a certified DISC Consultant, Motivational Speaker, Leadership Coach, and a PMP and PgMP certification holder. She has been in leadership roles leading teams across the globe for the past 15+ years at Fortune 500 companies (IBM, MetLife, TIAA, Horizon BCBSNJ). She is currently serving on the President's Advisory Council of the Maxwell Leadership Team on the Systems & Data Committee.

Anupama is an award-winning Toastmaster & has been an International Keynote Speaker at Toastmasters and Rotary Clubs across the globe. She volunteers her time at the Project Management chapter in New Jersey, at her church and in her community. She is a mom of 3 and a committed individual who is passionate about servant leadership & developing leaders around her.

Inspiring the project management community across the globe has been a journey, Anupama has taken for the past 3 years as a keynote Speaker at various Project Management Institute Chapters (PMI in USA, Singapore, Ireland, South Africa & others). Her mission to Be Challenged & Lead On!

Previous Speaking Topics:

  • April 2023 - Panelist for the "Empowering Women In Leadership LCI" at the PMI New Jersey Chapter, USA
  • August 2023 - Keynote Speaker at IT Conference at the Fall Conference MiGMIS (Michigan Government Management Informa7on Sciences)
  • September 2023 - Keynote Speaker at Professional Development Day for PMI Central Indiana, PMI Central Iowa, PMI Central Illinois
  • October 2023 - Keynote Speaker at Monthly Mee7ng for PMI Melbourne chapter, Australia
  • January 2024 - Webinar at on "Boos7ng Your Leadership Poten7al: By The Law Of Inner Circle"


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Type of category: Lunch N Learn

Type of activity: Power Skills

Date: July 18th, 2024

Hour: 12:00 to 13:00

Number of PDUs: 1